Mine had the self doubts and all of a sudden started screaming at me. He was never one to yell and we didn't argue much, then all of a sudden everything was an arguement which in turn would end up in a screaming match. I finally learned to just not scream and argue because if I said it was blue he would scream no it's green. Mine just let himself completely go. He was a big man to begin with but gained even more weight and wore the oldest clothes he owned. There for a while I was afraid he would quit showering but lucky he didn't go that far.
Even though it's hard that is the best to ignore them. Mine didn't do anything around the house either and last year let his two adult children move in with their SO and no one did anything as far as cleaning up. I had to learn when in Rome do as they do which bothered me to see the house such a wreck all the time. I am not a neat freak but I do expect people to pick up after themselves. No one noticed that I was trying to clean up after everyone until I just stopped. I would stop and eat dinner on my way home because I knew there wouldn't be any clean dishes. I was already in IC which helped me to deal with it and not feel guilty for not having dinner cooked.
He is much better and we are actually getting along better but have a long way to go. There are some days I still have my doubts but they are getting fewer and fewer.
You can always take your kids to the park for a picnic to spend time with them and also to get out of the house. Before I finally concentrated on GAL, I would drive around the interstate just to be gone from home.
