I have to disagree M1 - I don't see a problem with self-assessing where I am at. I know that I can't put a clock on the WAW and her timeline. But I can monitor my progress. That is why I used the analogy of climbing Everest. It is a huge and dangerous mountain. Base Camp is the start, and Camp I is on the way. There is much left to do but I think anyone doing this work also needs to reflect on their progress and feel good about how far they have come.
I am proud of here I am versus 2 months ago. I have no idea what the outcome will be. I have no idea how long things will take. I am sure I will have setbacks. But I am better than I was a month ago, and I think my R is better with my WAW than it was a month ago. I still sent her a draft of our separation agreement today, which is tough. But just another step that needed to be done.
So yes, do the work for you but don't be afraid to assess progress.
Yes, assess YOUR progress.....not the relationship.
And I believe that you stated reconcilliation there....
If you ARE speaking of just yourself, then that is fine and neccessary in this...
