Hi, tmarie, I posted to you on your newcomers thread. I wasn't aware you had started a new one. Is there any possibility you could go out of town with your H? Or just fly out to him on your anniversary day and return the next?
And the others are right on, piecing DOES take a long time. It's not like a miracle of God, where it happens in an instant. It takes a lot of work, on yourself, and on figuring out what got your M in this shape, how to change what you can change for the better. Patience is something we all have to have. Lots of it.
Remember, your H also has to work on himself. It may take him time to stop the ow contact. It took my H more than a year and a half to stop. And I now have to start giving him my trust to keep it that way. Be careful of how you approach him with your doubts and misgivings. You are in a very delicate place right now.
