I'm not very good at posting but will try to help.
When my SO was going through MLC we lived in the same house and it is very hard. There were times I thought it would be easier to live apart and even though he would scream at me to get out I refused to leave. He was in MLC for over three years and is just now starting to come out of it. There was a time when we didn't even speak when we got home from work or eat together. We also ended up in completely different rooms on opposite sides of the house, with one of us going in the front door and the other out the back anytime we left. At first I follwed him all around the house and kept trying to get him to talk but after a while I just left him alone.
I had the hardest time not asking what he was doing or where he was going and then when he was gone not calling. Everytime I did he either didn't answer the phone or was so defensive I regretted calling. Like you I lost a lot of weight because of the stress.
I detached by GAL and making a list of home projects I wanted to do so I could concentrate on them. We didn't have small children at home so I made myself renew some friends that I had lost contact with, bought some new clothes and even signed up for a dance class.
