I hate my H

[Done in VA]

Once again, I totally agree - I want to change so badly, but it is HARD!

[trustingfaith]

I agree with that. We are all in this together.

[stillloveshim]

You need to find Sandi2. She was a WAW. Amazing chick.

[dmkdmkdmk]

I want to needlepoint this and put it in front of me where I can look at it all the time

Uhmmmm......


Good Luck ?

That would be one strong needlepoint project.......

Better yet ?

Just let it become a part of you...

I will, LOL. I have a knack for starting craft projects and not finishing them...

H and I always joked about places like "Honest John's Used Cars" - if they have to tell you, they're probably not...

[Mach1]

You need to find Sandi2. She was a WAW. Amazing chick.

Yes she is....and has some absolutely amazing insight into this crap.....

Only thing is....SHE cannot make YOUR changes....

Not saying that to be a d**k or anything......Just saying that your changes have to be real and for yourself...

Hard ? Yes it is, but who said hard wasn't worth the walk ?

Thats what makes us different from other people now.....

We know the difference....


I usually post in MLC, but I thought I would stop over here today and see who is hangin out here lately.....

I'm glad I did.

Y'all sound strong....Keep it up.

Strive to be better.....or else you will fail yourself, which is worse than failing in a marriage....

[Mach1]

H and I always joked about places like "Honest John's Used Cars" - if they have to tell you, they're probably not...

Oh yea......when someone says "trust me" ?

Yea, probably shouldn't do that.....

[lg193]

Holy crap Mach that's good s---, I could not agree more! Every single point you made there I was saying YES, YES,YES. This is by far the best and most complete list I've read on here thus far.

Thank-you.








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Me 42, Her 34
M 3yrs, T 8yrs
D 5 S 3 S 2
ILYBINILWY 02/09
Sleeping in same bed/no intimacy
"I,m done" her words: 05/28/09

She moves out end of Sept/09 till then "in limbo"

[Mach1]

Once again, I totally agree - I want to change so badly, but it is HARD!

Not really, Assessing what you want to change is much harder.

Look in that mirror, and ask yourself what about YOU sucks .....

What you could do better and what you think you have a good handle on...

Make a list of things and check them off one at a time....

Don't go all phsyco and come home with orange hair or anything.....Just gradually take the time and have the patience to adjust yourself to fit you and the children.


I made a list of everything that I wanted in a relationship.

Honesty
Dignity
Patience
Understanding

etc.....

Has to be your list...NOT mine.....LOL

And everynight, I would check those things off depending on whether of not I showed those things........If I did ?

Then I slept well.....


Dignity, Honor , and Grace are an absolute neccessity in this....

Patience doesn't hurt either.....

[Done in VA]

I am so doing that list right now. I love the idea. I'm mad that I have to cross the orange hair off, but whatever works...LOL

[Mach1]

I am so doing that list right now. I love the idea. I'm mad that I have to cross the orange hair off, but whatever works...LOL

Yea me too.....I heard that Orange is the new Grey....

Let me see your list when you are done.....