mdoodles I understand. Is it this? Is this your thought process: If I could only get rid of her somehow, get him home--I could show him how happy we could be? I just need the distraction of the OW gone and I know I can do it? If it is, I think the same way. But ultimately, I believe you can show him the real you, the you he fell in love with, whenever you want. Ow or not. But I have to agree with another post: It's ok if he cheats on me if in the long run he comes home......that sucks. But I also understand how hard it is to walk away. Especially when we've learned that the majority of couples who survive this crap are stronger. Keep your chin up. You're not alone and you're not crazy. Hurt and pain and confusion are strange motivators. Just make sure you keep you under control and you do things you can be proud of.
