I really appreciate your post & yes, Virginians do need to stick together!
I agree with everything. Actions speak louder than words so I don't need to point out my changes. He will eventually see the 180s. Like I said above, he has acknowledged in MC some changes & said they were nice. We also have homework for MC where we name something we appreciate about our spouse every night. Last week when he had to work late, he said he appreciated the fact that I didn't get upset that he had to work late. That tells me that HE THOUGHT I WOULD be upset. Yes! A 180 that was not only acknowledged, but appreciated
Good for you.....180's are great huh ?
Now.....When you can get to the point where you do them because they are a part of you instead of expecting a reaction from him.....Then you are on your way....
Changes and 180's have to be about you becoming you, and NOT used as a ploy or for reaction from you spouse...
