Should I ask him about using my computer while I was gone?
State what you want. "Please respect my things. If you need to use my computer, please ask first".
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Sometimes I get so frustrated with this game
This is not a game. This is your life.
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that I just ask myself it it's really worth it.
Only you can answer that. Making the changes in YOU for YOU is worth it.
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I'm not happy, I'm trying to GAL and PMA, but deep down I'm miserable, I hurt so much.
The hurt is normal. Feel it. Let it out when you are alone. Vent it to us. DO NOT STUFF IT. Let the pain out will help get you to happy. List out things that make you happy. Then start doing them.
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Everything about this summer is turning out completely opposite of what I was expecting.
Take things day by day. What do YOU have control over? Make new plans that you CAN control.
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Why me? I'm a good woman
This is a wonderful opportunity for self reflection and personal growth if you take it
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I know I had my issues, but I'm working on them.
Keep working on YOU. You will get to a good place...
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Why can't he just see that he would never find someone like me again?
He is in the fog right now.
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Someone who loved him and his son and was completely devoted to them. Maybe that was part of the problem, I was too attached to him and had a different idea of what "family" and "marriage" means.
A possibility
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I still believe, in spite of everything that has happened, that there is hope for us.
Keep the faith. Never give up. Just let him fix him. YOU fix you. Get to happy without anyone. You are both on different timelines. You need to get to happy before him. You need to "Set him free" to find his happiness. That is why DETATCHING is so important. You need to be the on that is more detached. People want what they cant have.
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I just started reading DR and I've been going dark, but is it healthy for me to have the expectation and hope that we will be back together after his 6 month lease is up? Or should I proceed with no expectations of us reconciling at all?
I have no intentions or expectations. I just work on being the best me I can. I practice with everyone. Practice makes it a habit. When I interact with W, I don't feed the fight.
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I know that I will survive, but being in limbo with NC at all from H hurts me like I've never been hurt before. frown
Sorry you are hurting right now. Everything happens for a reason. HUGS
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
