J, You are doing well...there is more to do but you seem to be on the right path. Without sounding like a broken record...don't forget to protect yourself legally. I would not like to see what debts she has had since she moved out and would not want you to get half of it as marital debt...should not happen but better to be safe than sorry.
Hopefully your investigation will confirm OM. You do not need pictures for you CC...an inappropriate relationship is enough for a no contact order. Something for you to think about...your call but it would probably be best if it was for an inappropriate relationship vs an affair...lets your wife save face. Someone else had said was this the reason she wanted to go Army...sounds like it.
When you can confirm if OM is married you will have a better idea on what to do.
Continue like you have these past few days...you will have bad days too so be prepared. Great idea for Disney with your daughter....this is hard on her also. Take care
