I just always felt that the legal part and the fact that he would always be there in bed WAS the enticing part!!! Silly me, I sorta feel dumb for that now.
Don't feel dumb for that. That'a a good thing. The trick is to find ways to keep that fire burning even when settled into "knowing" they'll always be there. I failed in that regard. I was going to say 'we' failed, but I have to face the truth. My W did try, I can remember her trying, and I just didn't embrace my part in it. I was too stressed, too tired, and there were too many other issues between us (money, house, chores, etc). I left her feeling like she was fighting that battle alone. By the time I realized what I needed to do, she was already checking out. That regret is the primary source of my ongoing pain now. She was trying, and I left her feeling abandoned.
That's why, DBing be dam*ed, I'm going to show her I can fan the flames too. Just don't know if she'll let me. She's got OM to do that now :-(
She does at least seem to still notice the little spark we still have :-) Sandi thinks that might be enough, given enough time.
