A new thread, a new outlook.....

[Can it work]

Well, I dropped to my W in passing that I wanted to take Wee Man for lunch on Father's day. She didn't have a problem with that at all. I then said that if she didn't have any plans, since it was her birthday she could joinus if she wanted as I didn't want to deprive her of Wee Man on her big day. She declined saying that it was ok, she'd probably spend most of the day at her parents' house. Not exactly the response I was hopling for but it does show that she doesn't want to spend time with me. It would have been less of a blow if she'd actually made other plans but she hadn't. Oh well, I guess it's either too soon or it's never going to happen. One of those possibilites has to be the true one. Either way though, it was a disappointment.

I'm taking Wee Man away for the weekend for my niece's 4th birthday party. I'm really looking forward to it actually as it's the first time he'll have been with all his first cousins at one time. It should be fun. Since I'm taking him away for the 4 nights, my W wasn't happy for me to have him Tuesday, Wednesday night this week. She's also decided that I shouldn't have him Tuesday, Wednesday next week since I'm only coming home on Monday night and she won't have seen hom for a while. I almost feel robbed because she's taking my time with my son away. My DB coach advised me not to argue about trying to apend more time with Wee Man but it's really hard just to lie down and take it. She only has to go without him for 4 nights on this one occasion. I have to go without him for 5 nights every second week! I really don't know what I should do here as I really want to spend the time with my son but I don't want to rock the boat with my W. I did try to discuss it sensibly and calmly but she basically told me it's not going to happen and that's that. I let it go then because it would have ended up as an argument and I really want to avoid that. I could force her to give me more time with her as I have my rights as a father. Right now though it feels as though I have to choose between getting more time with Wee Man and ruining my marriage for good or giving her more time with him and still having a possibility of reconcilliation. I just can't see an alternative at the moment and it's really upsetting me. Any advice would be most appreciated.

Kev