To be a success here, It means that you have to heal YOU. And you really have to let go for that to happen. To really realize that you have NO CONTROL aver anything but yourself and the parent that you want to be for your children.
By the looks of your register date and your signature, you are probably just coming into a lot of anger realizing that this is really happening to YOU. That there will be no magic pill that will alleviate this. This is a path that needs to be walked in order for some normalcy to roll around again.
Take this time, and really take a hard look at yourself. Ask yourself if you are really who YOU want to be right now and for the future. Look at this time as an oppurtunity for you to find yourself too.
When I realized that......was when I made the most progress for me. When I realized that I was going to have to actually do the work instead of the facade that I was working....
Those kinds of changes aren't real, and it will show eventually.
There is nothing going on that she doesn't control right now....That is part of the process, and it is easy as hell to get sucked in for the good of the relationship. In actuality, the old relationship is dead to her, and it needs to be that way for you too. It has to in order for you to heal for your next relationship, and it just may......be with your wife.
You asked a question on Holly6 "s thread that I wanted to address to you.....
There is no one specific thing that you need to look at as a magic pill.
This is a process that you BOTH will have to follow...
Use this time wisely, and for you and the kids. It really does make it easier....
Strive to do better everday, with Dignity, Honor , and Grace.....
