I get an e-mail from H. He says he like to work together on the finances and want the talks to be peaceful (in response to my e-mail to him about where I am coming from). So that's good. I want to be on the same page.
I did respond to him that he should lie to the kids about his whereabouts. Abt not telling them he is at work when he isn't. We will see what he says. I know he will get defensive as he does with almost everything I say nowadays. He sees everything as a reprimand. Whereas I tried to state that it puts me in a difficult position if he is not honest with them. I told him I told the kids where I was on Saturday and they didn't have a problem with it. That it was Ok with them. No need to tell them fibs because it breeds mistrust and confusion on their part.
He probably won't take it well. Oh well, I am detaching so much nowadays that I don't care very much what he thinks of me. I just need to stand up for myself and tell him not to lie to the kids. I can't control his behavior but I said my POV.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
