W is having Affair -- may leave soon -- thread 2

[SavingMyMarriage]

Thanks for the info. It sounds like you've been through a lot.

You wrote that in your opinion might be a case in which I should deviate a bit. What do you mean by that?

I am talking to a DB coach and I will also be reaching out to other Christian marriage coaches for other suggestions to help "me" and "us".

For the most part, I believe in DBing, but I believe that my W might be a little different from the avg WAS. I am still totally surprised about her going away for the weekend. I don't know if this was a test, or because he asked her and she was swept off her feet (didn't want to say no to "ruin" a good thing), or if she wanted to truly have a good time with him. Before she left, she told me that she wanted some space and some time to "think about things". I don't know what to believe. Except for the baseball game, I have no idea what they did.

I'm trying to work on myself...little by little. I know I have to get better than that. I don't want to give up on her either. I promised myself when I got married (and also promised her) that I would NEVER give up on us.