My H was, too, THAT angry for awhile. What worked for me, was giving him small "milestones" in his path of family time. For example, at one of his angriest times, (Last November) I asked him to just relax, and let's just try and have a nice holiday with the kids. I told him... No pressure for you to do anything other than enjoy the holidays with us. I won't ask you any questions about us, won't pressure you to do anything you don't want to, just relax and enjoy.
That was a month and a half milestone.
Once we got past the holidays (by a few weeks), I acknowledged we were past the milestone (in an email), and just thanked him for making it pleasant, and I won't pressure him for more, but am thankful for what we have now.
It's worked so far, except ONE of us is empty.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
