Well, I got to check up your posts Mindblank and I truly think you`re in a much better position than me! You`re at least in same bed as your H and he is involved with you as a friend. Congrats on all the relationship goals you have achieved to date!
Maybe I`m too ambigious in myself about whether I want my M to continue or not.
And I am not framing relationship goals yet. Just trying to stop the mad dance.
As I said, my H had very little involvement with us last night.Its as if the more I have fun, the madder he gets. He does the reverse to what I`d expected from LRT. And as he really seems to get satisfaction from making me angry he`s really ticked off that he cannot rising me and is doing everything he can to push my buttons.
So, on Friday morning, I thanked him for making the decision to move out. He said "saying it is one thing, doing it is another" I didn`t react to that at all. And think I should motor on as if I expect him to move out. Honestly, I think his mental state is so fragile now, and his anger so deep, it would be better for us all if he did go. Its silly games too. Like last night I put on the immersion(water heater) as I wanted to have a bath(a fav way to relax). He kept switching it off! I just ignored that and had a lukewarm bath in the end up quite happily.
I`m really really worried for the kids in all of this. They barely interact and come to me for everything.
I don`t know if H is having a mental breakdown of sorts. I really don`t know what to do but this cant continue.
I know I have loved him. I know we once had a nice life. I believe that is possible again.
Anyone give me some kind of relationship goal I should have with this angry hurting man?
