I was supposed to get divorced tomorrow - part 2

[1853dave]

Sunday - went ok. W called me this morning while I was out on a bike ride (keeping up on the GAL and exercise routine - BTW started training for another marathon) - so I wasn't available to answer the phone. Called her back later, and she answered with her patented friendly and warm "Hi!". I love hearing that, as it is the very same "hi" she gave me back when things were good with us. Sometimes when she call me she says, "Hi, it's me..." and I say "Hi, me!" and she has this cute giggle that follows my response...
Anyway, she said one of D9's friends woke up sick this morning, so her mom came by and took her home from the sleepover early. So, I offered that I'd take D9's other friend for part of the day to hang out with us while her sister stayed home sick. This ended up working out pretty well - D9 had a friend for most of the day, D4 was happy with this, and we all had a pretty good day.
We visited Grandma later in the day (my W's mom) and had dinner with her (ordered a pizza - simple). W called while we were there - she sounded ok but maybe tired...I could tell she missed the kids. I offered for them to talk to her, which they did. I pretty much always do that, and I know she likes that. I told her I'd try to have them home by 8pm - we ended up running a bit late (by the time the pizza arrived, etc...). Got home around 8:20pm, and she was ok with it. I told her I'd try to plan things better next time, as I didn't intend to be so late, and she downplayed it, saying that they could sleep in in the morning since school is out.
I didn't stay more than a few minutes, kissed the kids and dog goodbye, and they (kids) said they'd call me tomorrow, because we didn't make plans for me to see them yet this week. Hopefully I see them Tuesday. W and I kind of make the schedule week to week - that way things stay flexible, and is probably most convenient for both of us. I think W prefers this too. She probably knows that if we hammer out child visitation days in stone, that it will be less convenient and enjoyable for the both of us. While it might virtually guarantee having the kids on certain days/times, it will also be limiting as well. Hopefully, things never get to that point.
Overall, the weekend went ok. Potential backslide on Saturday with the conversation about kid days and finances... Since she doesn't bring these things up herself, maybe I'd be smart not to do that either. This keeps things friendly and comfortable between us, and things just seem to feel better between us when we avoid these discussion.
Another thing I seem to notice lately - that when we have an uncomfortable conversation, we both tend to want to put it behind us and "not go there" so to speak. I think she is enjoying the peace between us as much as I am. I have been a little surprised at times lately at how quickly she is able to rebound after a tense discussion as long as I am willing to drop it myself. We both kind of pick up and go on as though nothing even happened. I'll take this as a good sign - I wonder how common this is with other WAWs... I hope this shows some promise.
One thing is for sure - we handle conflict MUCH better than we ever did before. No doubt about that. I suspect she feels the same.