Agh! He's detached completely!

[IWillSaveOurMarr]

I feel like I'm still shaking from this, our most recent argument. He just left to take an hour to cool off he says. It all started innocently enough, I put my arms around him from behind, as suggested by our marriage counselor. He was playing "Doom" or something on his computer and actually let me keep my arms there for a bit.

Anyways, I turned this into asking him for more clarity on things he planned on stopping doing because he had been doing all my laundry because he is OCD before, and I was running out of everything but didn't want to bring it up because I wanted him to know I was respecting his space, because he wants me to basically ignore his existance in the house.

Anyways, it morphed into a fight, much as I tried to keep it contained and not explode. What hurt was that he said we are "married in name only" and that "so many people told me NOT to marry you".

And here I was, doing so damn good on such a hard day for me...my close friends wedding, the first wedding I've gone to since our wedding this fall. I did ok until the reception, where they kept doing couples dance after couples dance, and then they did this anniversary dance thing when they kept calling "all married couples" 18x onto the dance floor. They then excused all couples from the floor in order of least married first. After the bride and the groom, we would have won this one. They had about 10-12 couples on the floor when they were at 35 years still, but the winner was the grooms parents, who have been married 48 years. It was just too hard sitting there alone, but I contained my teary eyes behind the camera and snapped away.

Then I left, called my mom and vented, and then came home all pumped up. Worked out and then took a bath and was winding down for the night before this argument happened.