True Love or True Fog? Changing Forums

[Silver Fox]

But now to more pressing matters. I finally sent H my list of terms. I stayed very business like and to the point. We were supposed to meet last week but I was just too busy with end of school stuff.

Thanks for letting me get the school year over with. Now I’ll cut to the chase. You know I don’t want to live here anymore and you know the reasons why. Therefore, your first option - “I take the house. I either let it roll into bankruptcy/foreclosure or somehow find a way to make the payments, fix it, and sell it myself.” - will be best for me.

I have already been looking at houses but it’s going to take time and money to purchase a place that’s suitable for me, as well as the dogs. Ideally I would like to move while I have this time off.

Since your retirement fund is the only money available, here is what I need:

1. $xx,xxx to wife (for a down payment, closing costs, moving expenses and to begin paying off the joint debt
2. $x,xxx to husband (for the summer)
3. $xxx monthly alimony (to help with joint debt and pet expenses)

I would agree to hold off on a start date for alimony until you secure a job. Also, you need to look into what the tax penalty is for withdrawing early retirement.

Remember that mediation is scheduled for this Wednesday at 9:30 but if we can work out an agreement I, like you, would rather not go through that again. I will gladly call my lawyer to cancel it but I need to do so by Monday afternoon. Then you can send the terms your lawyer and he can write a formal draft for us to review.

This email is a complete 180 for me. I refuse to say anything more like "I'm sorry it's come to this" or "I still can't believe this is happening" as I did so much of in the past.

It's been over 24 hours and I still haven't heard from him.