A New Decade - Part 2

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Kenn, going to DC sounds like a lot of fun ..... hope it was??? If you're on the east coast, then you have tons of pirate festivals to choose from.

Yes, it was by the water, Lake Michigan actually, in a cool little town. Actually, probably not as crazy at Star Wars con. I would say 1/3 dressed up 1/3 half dressed up & 1/3 not at all dressed up.

Yesterday, my XH asked if we could go Sunday instead, because he was child sitting for a few hours for his friend/landlord/ former co-worker. Also my XH wanted to see the pirate parade which was today. So I said, whatever day works for you. So yesterday I went to pirate fest with my sister. By the time pokey her got ready it was pretty late & we only went for a few hours. Crappy weather, but nice to dress up & go for a few hours anyway.

This morning I didn't hear from my XH, so I called him. He had no phone minutes left. About an hour later he shows up, in no pirate garb, not shaved, nor showered. I was totally surprised, because, well, he used to love dressing up for these things.

He was in a bad mood, so had some coffee & a smoke & vented to me. Let's see, so my XH Saturday consisted of free child sitting of 2 unruly children, Going home & trying to get the lawn mowed (which he doesn't get any rent deducted for) & trying to do it before it rained. Then a co-worker stopped over, so he didn't get the mowing done because it then started to rain. His BMF called him, probably to tell my XH his problems, then his "friend"/landlord called to tell of his problems. So my XH had no phone minutes left. Today XH got up early & finished the lawn & thus didn't have time to get ready.

After my XH finished venting, I gave him a hug. He said thanks & that he was feeling better. And that, he knew I would understand his bad mood & not take it personal. That is true, because I do know him. The annoying part about all of this, is that his "friends" that are venting to him, even if they are down on their luck are 10 times better off than my XH is. So really, they have nothing to complain about. I told my XH I feel bad for them, but I do not feel sorry for them. They all have more education & more property or richer families that my XH or I have. So it's hard for me to have a pity party for them.

So I was going to wear a sexy pirate outfit, but since my XH didn't dress up, I decided to wear, what I wore yesterday, which was a more authentic pirate. (As most girl pirates didn't dress like whores - they dressed like men). We got there, browsed through the shops, saw the pirate parade, which was pretty cool. Then we had a drink & a bite to eat. We also saw a fire act, a few bands & a militia demonstration. Then we browsed the shops again, I bought him a mace & myself an anchor wall hanging. We saw my sister & a friend of ours. My XH shook my sisters hand & then gave her a half hug (which was nice). My XH & I chatted a bit about different things. No R, no M, no D talk. I told him he needed to start putting himself first, instead of all of his "friends", who don't give a sh*t first. He agreed. I said to him, joked to him, that I probably couldn't go a day without giving him some advise & that he was probably tired of it. He just smiled at me & said no.

On the way home my XH fell asleep (I knew he would). Came home, I made us a quick bit to eat. I gave him a cheap phone I bought (hope his phone line works), as it is quite dangerous for him not to have a phone & he doesn't have an neighbors close. I also gave my XH some $$ for a driving ticket he hasn't had the $$ to pay for (& his license has been suspended for). Yep, bad DBing there, do I care - nope. So me XH left, as we thanked each other for a nice time and hugged & kissed goodbye.

All I can say is, I must look like a very appealing friend to him, not because of the money - because, really, I am so low maintenance. No drama, no pity parties from me.

All in all, it was a very nice day together. Six hours together!! We hadn't spent that much time together since before he left almost 2 years ago.

Wow, that was long .... anyone still awake??