Newbie - first post

[25yearsmlc]

How'd today go?

As for "scheduled check in meetings"...um, let them have an opportunity one on one to tell you how they feel and leave it open ended as in, "well if not now, whenever you feel like talking let me know"....and eventually they will probably open up IF they think you can handle it. Know what I mean? I just think something about scheduling it doesn't sound like a teenager way of approaching it. But that's maybe just my kids. Car rides and bed time are of course, when you get stuff sprung on you so be prepared. The night before D20 left for Europe we were driving to get something for the trip at the last minute, she gave me the "Why should I try with dad? YOU are recon and all but he chose to not to be part of MY life so...etc" and she was totally entitled to feel that way as what she said IS true, in effect. But he wants back into her heart and she wants to want to let him back in, if you know what I mean. So the trip was a good good thing.

But then yesterday When I mentioned to d20 the 'adjustment period" it'll take when he gets here from his mom's (mil has brain tumors now, from the lung cancer so....) and the d's and I have been on our own here a long time, d20 said, "What's new? His long hours and being gone always meant we'd have to "ADJUST to him..." and that's TRUE, unfortunately. See, the whole reconciling is just a big step but it's not the top of the stairs by any means. Yi yi yi. (SIGH)

But like I said, the timing of the questions is amazing, the car rides, the bed times... LIke as you are shutting out their light to say good night and the "one last question" is something like "so why do you believe in God?" I recall that question and thinking, "man if that is a bed time delay tactic it's brilliant!"

Oh, I took the SERIOUS lawm mower mulcher thing that also chops down trees and it worked! I have "deforested the Amazon like a nasty corporation" and have a lawn now. Probably less of a fire hazard too. Yay, ME!

So MTN, back to YOU!!

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