My counselor told me that it often comes crashing down on a WAS at some point. I had one of these days as well where I was emoting about being left behind. I didn't think it was fair that I was cast out of my WAW and her twin sister's place while they have each other for support. I have to sit hear wondering why they don't want to deal with anything right now. My W with her marriage to me and both of them for not properly dealing with the death of my BIL. Why won't they go see his headstone? Why won't their parents or brother talk to them about what happened? I feel like I have been let go because I am the strong one. My W admitted to me the day the BIL took his own life that we would have to take my SIL in and I would have to help the W be strong because she wasn't a particularly strong person. Of course, the solution is to factor one person out of the equation. That is me. I can't help but wonder when it will all come crashing down for my WAW? How does one hold off dealing with the death of a family member, consoling a grieving twin, and shunning a spouse? I am now ready to talk seriously with my W about what happened and now we are barely on speaking terms.
Drew --- me-36 WAW-32 separation - 5/22/09 WAW twin sister-32 (lives with WAW) SIL H death - 11/02/08 ILYBIANILWYAM - 5/07/09 bomb - 5/07/09
