Newly separated...spouse left, 4th thread

[antlers]

That all being said, to me, her answer to the e-mail was a classic non-answer...

It sounds like yes I answered, but how much effort would it be for her to "remind" you what her response actually said in terms of whether or not the June trip worked or not.

Even if she merely responded as she said she did, that response in and of itself doesn't say NOT to go forward with your plans.

But, I also agree that finger-pointing serves no purpose, although I do think dropping a line into your response asking if she remembers if her initial response asked you not keep the June vacation plans should be added.

You may be miscommunicating at your end of it, too, but that doesn't mean she shouldn't work on her communications skills. You can't make her do that, but by asking her if she remembers (better yet, could she send you the e-mail to refresh your memory), she may realize her answer was incomplete, too.

Hi AlexEN.

I agree, she didn't provide much with that response!

She should still have it under 'sent mail', if she did send it. If I had received a response from her, I would have certainly communicated back with her.

I went forward with our plans because I heard nothing back from her...no objections.

I don't want to point any fingers. I want this thing to be worked amicably and cooperatively.

I could have E-mailed her back after I heard nothing from her I suppose...but she's griped at me before for resending messages to her...so I didn't. There is room for both of us to do better regarding communication.


Thank you for your input. I appreciate it. It always helps for others to 'pitch in'.