I have a thread posted also in newcomers but wanted some specific advice for DB-ing techniques when the separated spouse is still living at home, which makes it a more unique situation.
First of all, H is clearly in MLC and exhibits so many of the wacky behaviors. I have been trying to give him "space" as much as I can under the same roof - he stays in the basement. I try not to be in the same room as him (unless I am there first) and try not to talk much unless he initiates, I pretty much never call him when he is out, I try my very best not to ask about his whereabouts and who is with. I don't plan anything around him and his plans because frankly he doesn't usually tell me anything going on.
Any other suggestions? Also, any other ideas on how to detach? It KILLS me that he doesn't want to tell me much of anything, is so secretive, and obviously doesn't want me to ask.
The kids are always asking things like when daddy will be home and I am tired of that question - I have started just answering "I don't know, he didn't tell me."
Any advice/suggestions would be welcome! Thanks. Do you think he even notices?????
