H, It sounds like she's not receptive to seeing anyone at this time. Do not sit around and wait....live your life. Do you have any hobbies? If so, continue doing them. I know that this is extremely hard, but there's nothing you can do for her. She has to be the one to reach out to you and yes, seek counseling. Like an addict, she must hit bottom and seek help. The more you suggest things like this, the more she'll be determined not to do it.
If she were just a roommate, how would you handle the situation? You'd leave the person alone and allow them to deal w/their "funk" on their own. Do the same here as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
