initially, he's a bit distant, but warms up as time progresses.
Like Mike, I know a guy like that as well. The trick for you is to recognize it and go with it. Instead of leaping from the top of the fridge when he comes home, give him space until he decompresses. That's part of being comfortable at home. Also, you may find that he opens up more when you actively listen (see the web for examples of active listening skills, but as a sales person, I bet you know what that is already
Active listening is one of the best things you can do AFTER letting him decompress. He'll open up like a can of fish.
I feel you sister. I really do. You have your balance and then you go home and cry your eyes out. It's odd, but that is how it is. Keep fighting and keep doing what you're doing. It seems that H is coming around - telling you jokes to try and make you feel better? Asking your advice on business matters? Hmm... he's feeling you. He's making his way back. It'll be a while before he cuts loose from the fog, but he's trying isn't he?
Try the things above and see what happens. You might be able to add them to the repetoire
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
