Partner left after 9 yrs - 18months on, reunited !

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Dawn... I just got back home, but I will check up on you tommorow!!

Rob, Simon, Jeff.. thanks for keeping up with me, its always so useful to get a mans perspective.. so you all think, wait a while and then he will WANT to talk, to draw a line under it...I hope so, because I am curious!! And I do have the odd resentment, which I have to brush aside, so we DO need to talk.

Well, had a very stressful weekend. MIL was not frosty, but NOT friendly to me.. and we were staying with her!! It was hard for me. On top of that, SIL had the baby, but wanted NO visitors!! So MIL was her usual self-obsessed self (she has got worse, V selfish and manipulative and domineering).. and was in tears and trying to get my BF to herself.. she managed it Saturday night and I waited in the house alone after getting back from my parents, but it was fine. Frankly, I didnt care. She was clearly jealous and nose out of joint that we are back together, she enjoyed having him to herself that 18 months. He is angry at her and said he is going to talk to her about it.. I didnt make ANY fuss at all, and smiled sweetly and said, ahh, well, she's lonely and depressed, I can see its difficult.. MIL from HELL!!! He was VERY good about it though.

Me and him are getting closer and closer and very loved up. He had a horrible weekend of family stress, what with his mother in meltdown, then the baby couldnt feed abd got sick and his brother was hard work.. but in the middle of this, I took him out for lunch Saturday and we had a lovely few hours shopping.. clothes for him and underwear for me!! I made it very fun and relaxed and he was grinning the whole time and just told me, that few hours was the best part of his weekend by far.

He has been leaning on me and confiding in me about family, quite stressed and irritable (not with me).. and I got resentful at one point (hid it!!) because its like the last 2 years DID NOT HAPPEN. We are so back to our old selves (except with constant hugging, holding hands and kissing) its a joke. So he's moaning about his Mum not coping, we had a hard weekend with her and he lent on me for support and I'm listening sweetly thinking.. I went through hell for 2 years and cried so hard I can no longer wear my contact lenses and you dont even want to know how I coped??

He came to my parents for an hour, despite being very nervous, but within minutes it was fine! My Mum said, how did he cope without you all that time? He clearly loves you and you are so close, its wierd.

Yep, still got no answers!!! All I can say is, we dont seem to need to talk about anything yet (we will!) we just seem happy to be back together. I always said though, pretty much all he needs to do is just come here, put his arms around me, kiss me and we will be 95% there. I feel very lucky really. There is a minefield of things to discuss and I still dont understand why he suddenly dropped me last August for her and I want to know why he stayed with her so long and how he feels about the whole thing now, on reflection.

xx