i so feel your pain. in some ways we are in the same position, how time is just passing and we dont want to be alone anymore.

at the same time, just cant pull the plug.

i wish i could offer some advice, i could use some myself.

everyone tells me to be the one to walk away, i honestly cant do it.

but by not doing it, is it helping me? not really.

i just hold on to the hope of what tomorrow could bring.

at some point will it change? who knows.

im sorry im no help, just know u arent alone.

it will be 3 years in october when my h first left. he has been back 2 time, just recently left again 2 weeks ago, he just cant let go of the ow.

im hoping in my situation, she will grow tired of not progressing in her "relationship" with him and dump him and move on.

maybe that will happen for u too, or maybe your husband is starting to wake up on his own.


me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09