Looking for Advice........

[DeadmanWalking]

Hey hows it going havent posted in about a month, i really dont have an excuse why not.. but my sitch hasnt changed WAW still not coming home she bought new furniture for her appt. in ohio and i am pretty sure she got the job there.

We have had 2 arguments recently...i know the book says to not let WAS drag you into an argument but i have been trying to 180 a little and my W really doesnt like it at all if i stand up for myself or speak my mind. Looking for a little advice on how i could handle these sitch's better....

#1 W and I getting along fine and i havent contacted her for a month all contact has been of her contacting me she calls me on a sunday and sounds tired and pissy. We talk for about 5 min. and she basically calls my a few names so i respond with
"hey you sound tired, so why dont you call me later or whenever you want" she gets pissed and says well i was just calling you because i said i would. to which i respond "i understand your tired and i dont want to argue but if you recall you left me, so you dont have to call me" she gets pissed and says goodbye...i dont hear from her for a couple days till she needs something.

#2 This sitch occured last night.....I am at work and W texts me telling about how she contacted Dell and she asked if i had enough $ for bills this month to which i replied why and she said that she accidently took money out of my personal account (even though she demanded that i remove her name from all of our accounts but the bill $ account) and she went online to check and she saw the bill account was kinda short (my check has not been deposited yet) but i respond that times have been hard at work the past few months and yes i have not been making what i usually do but i will be fine, she says well if you are short i will help you out with the bills as long as your not spending $ on lunch and blah blah blah. So i politely as possible text her back that i appreciate her offer to help, but when she left me she left me with all the bills and that i was a big boy and will make ends meet. She replies with i get it, i dont want to talk to you, sorry i was concerned i wont let it happen again. To which i responded goodnight i think you have forgotten i dont except $ from friends.

My big ? is was she softening a bit here on the last 1, im not sure i was pretty pissed that she was snooping in my accounts and should not have responded to her till i calmed down.

I am trying to not be a doormat but basically all it is leading to is us arguing more and more and that is 1 of her complaints is that we argue to much. But if i speak up she gets pissed and then i dont hear from her for a week or so.

Either way im going right back to NC it is basically the only thing i have that works with her. My DB coach recommended 3wks NC.

She also told me that she feels guilty about how she made me feel thru all this but she says the easy thing would be to go back to me but that nothing will change and that no matter what i do she is not coming back home.

I guess my big ? is should i stop standing my ground with her since its obviously not working.

So 3wks of NC has officially started. LOL!!! unfortunately she is pissed at me right now for trying to not bend over backwards to let her sh*t on me.

Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.

[DeadmanWalking]

well NC until 6/5 she called left message crying so i called back she said her car broke down so i was trying to be nice and made some calls to get her car towed to the dealer since im in illinois and shes in ohio. She told the guy at the dealer to just call me and whatever i ok'd to do. the guy called her told her she needed new control arms and some other work to get car back on the road the control arms parts and labor $900, so she asks me if she drives to illinois if i will fix them for her since the only problem is the rear bushings are pushed out just causes a klunk noise. I tell her i will, but i can only do it up here since my tools are up here. So havent heard from her since.
LOL!! Its funny i wonder if she realizes that she only calls me when she needs something.

I went camping this weekend and last night was catching up on some sleep. Aroung 12:15 last night i missed a call from a strange Ohio number ive never heard of or seen. Ive tried calling it back and nobody picks up. I reverse searched the number and it comes back G. Davis...and then obviously wants me to pay $14.95 to find out the rest of the info. The only info i get is that the number is a Cleveland number my W is in Akron. Not to far away from each other. But im sure if W knows this person she would have told him to not contact me because i would gladly drive 3 states just to shove my foot up his A*S. But nobody will answer maybe it is tellamarketers. But how many telemarketers call at 12:15 at night. Also the one reverse search says it is a residence.

Well back to NC after 6/5 im sure i will hear from her when she needs something. But untill then i aint contacting her.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I think you can do a reverse lookup for only $4.95 on intelius.com.

[mdoodles]

search the number in quotes - sometimes that pulls more information up.