I'd have to say that the absolute go-to would be divorced-and-happily remarried gf (who was awesome during my tour in Iraq for WAW), followed @ quite a distance by 3 HS-now-FB friends who are all divorcing now as well - the 4 do a lot of commiserating and mutual encouragement, while DHRGF does the real emotional heavy-lifting and support. Curiously, DHRGF also seems to be something of a DB ally - she's indicated to WAW on several convos "how great" she thinks it would be if we patched it together because she "loves" me "so much."
