I don't want to be a doormat, but I don't want to push her away towards OM.
Quite frankly... you have to be prepared to push her towards OM so that the fantasy is tested with reality.
If she is forced to OM as her only alternative: 1. She will return to you and work on your M. 2. She will run to OM and: a. They live happily ever after b. The relationship fails after 6 months
Just break it down, and try to suppress your emotions around her. I'm as hardcore as they come I think, and still this morning I find myself agonizing over wanting to reach out. You just have to remind yourself of what is happening.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
