W is having Affair -- may leave soon -- thread 2

[SavingMyMarriage]

Thanks for all your replies. If I pack her bags, I highly doubt she will be returning. I don't want to be a doormat, but I don't want to push her away towards OM. Once she is out of the house, I think that it would that much more difficult.

I'm thinking what would Jesus do in this situation? I know the doormat thing isn't attractive and she knows perfectly well that this is hurting my feelings. I don't want to argue or give her the silent treatment when she returns -- I believe that will make her very uncomfortable.

I know that she was very insecure growing up and that she is still somewhat insecure as an adult. The OM is giving her the attn and "love" that I was not unfortunately. She believes that I do not really love her. She asked me on a number of occasions if I really love her and at the end of MAR09 asked me if she was the love of her life. The answer: yes, yes, and absolutely yes. The problem was that I had difficulties showing this. Anyway, I'm getting sidetracked. Thanks again.