Oldtimers: IS Mlcer good parent after crises?

[peacetoday]

Hi
nothing really new here
I have a question??I read this on another post also

My XH
was ver connected here until the final D
until the money ran out- he spent it a lot on kids
visited religiosly 4 x a week and would make up days if he had to miss..he wanted to be here for kids

NOw he seems animalistice.. like surviving
He visits less//cant wait to leave
seems barbarian..lies constantly
I know he is on anti anxiety meds..he is recovering alcoholice for 20 years I dont know if hes drinkling again

question is:
DO these mlcers sometimes stay connected for the first part like during replay
then when the crap hits the fan totally disappear
it seems backwards??
like he seems connected before..now he is almost gone from us
hes just holding on by a thread
I suspect he is at bottom at this point--(just by the way he acts totally irrational, angry moody unablr to listen or have a conversation anymore)
peace