I wouldn't leave my home, nor would I give up the Master Bedroom. If he wants his independence as much as it appears, he has his choice of other bedrooms and sofas to call his own. He is the one that has the issues right now, not you, so do not be so accommodating when it comes to the sleeping arrangements or anything else for that matter. Protect yourself and your assets.
As for answering the phone every time he calls....let it ring. Pick it up if it's convenient for you to do so, otherwise, it can go to voice mail. Controlling? Yes. Also, he wants to know where you are when he calls. Why? Well, we can all guess about that one.....they just do this to ensure that you are not following them, etc.
Peace gave you excellent advice...seek the counsel of a good lawyer, but do not share this information with him. In fact, the less you share w/him right now the better. Learn to do things for yourself and just leave him be. You cannot rationalize w/an emotional person. For now, treat him as a room mate and nothing more.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
