I love her but not enough to play this stupid game anymore. 7 months of this crap is a long time.
As far as her hedging on meeting someone else. That is not the case. She had her thing and dumped him. I think she is trying to see if she can be alone and is trying to keep me around if she can't.
Well the trip in the car for 19 hrs was great and we had a good time for a couple days but we had a fight and it brought it all out in the open and we reverted to our old patterns and I bought a ticket and flew home early.
However.......for the first time she said she understood why I was so angry and really really forgave me and asked for my forgiveness. SHe said she really does want to work on the marriage.
Now I am torn. How can we work on the marriage when we are so far apart. She says I was right and that she needs to actually face emotions with me rather than repress as she normally does....but she has been so mean to me in the past and I don't know if she will change that.
I would advise with an open mind. Take it slow. Maybe weekend trips would be good. You visit her, she visits you to begin. Good luck and trip to post here to get as much as advice as you can. The guys here have a lot of insight.
When you Get A Life, you realize that your spouse is a selfish person to have put you through what they did and you may never trust them again.
It is just a matter of the new mindset. When you begin to trust and love yourself again and they come back to you, keep it in your mind that they were not there for you when you needed them. Do you want to go back to a situation like that. While you were apart and single, you grew and made changes to better yourself but they used OM or OW to self medicate and live a life in denial.
What can they do to gain your trust. They threw you out and moved on to someone else.
