I agree. If you're not willing to have an open marriage with your wife having OM, then you should follow Puppy's advice. I'm sure he advised the same to me, and I know I just lost so much self-respect and self-confidence by allowing my H to get away with stuff like that. I also think if you don't do it, your W will lose respect for you also. Doormats are not very attractive (and I say this from experience)... Karen
