Trying to detach from the madness!

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Journaling:

I saw this on an A related website. Thought I needed to post it here.

"Does he feel regret? I think much depends on who the addict is and where he is in his addiction. But the familiar story of many addicts is this:

As long as the addict is getting what he wants, as long as it is fun for him to be with a woman, as long as it's all about his appetite for pleasure being served, then he will indeed be warm, loving, fun, attentive and intoxicated with us. He will call you his angel, the woman of his dreams, his sun and moon, his destiny. He will pledge never to let you go.

The reality is: addicts are utterly and absolutely selfish. An addict does not care about you, will not sacrifice for you, and will not tolerate being made the least bit uncomfortable by your needs which might interfere with his pleasure agenda.

The moment you start laying mature relationship boundaries, he will cut you off--he will cut his feelings off--in a split second. AND NOT REGRET IT. Because his goal in life is all about being a predator.....which is why he soon finds another woman or picks up a new drug or moves to Hawaii or buys a pleasure boat.......because life has to be FUN for the guy or he is out of there.

This is typical behavior of addicts in early and middle addiction while they are still puffed up and grandiose and absolutely convinced that they should not have to put up with any of your sh**.

And then there are addicts who have reached the final stages of their addiction and the balloon has burst, they know they have failed in every part of their life, they know, now, they have destroyed their families, their wives, their children, and there is no more blame in them. There is only the sick acceptance that they have decimated every person who loved them, and all they have left now is the drug, which no longer gets them high, but which is still all they have left. These addicts pray that the drug will remove the profound feelings of REGRET which haunt them morning to night."