Don't Let Them Eat Cake

[In Limbo]

Interesting and unexpected turn of events last night. H told me that he does not plan to leave, does not plan to move to the basement because he plans on keeping the house. He said he can afford to keep it and I can't, so why should he leave. Said I could leave, I could move to the guest room or basement but he was not. Of course I have no plans of leaving and told him that. When he asked why he should leave rather than me I did tell him that he's the one who wants out of the relationship, not me so he should go. H doesn't manage the finances, so he doesn't realize that he could NOT really afford the house, especially after paying child support. I don't think he has a lawyer or he would know that. So I'm not sure why he's really taking this stand. He's all about status symbols, so that may be part of it. He doesn't want to leave our beautiful home and "stoop down" to living in an apartment. So, I'm not sure what to do at this point. He's not planning on going and to my knowledge making no effort to make anything happen. Typical MLC?

Confession time...when this all came down late last night, I was tired and PMSing and I didn't handle it very well. So now I've got to get back to DBing to try to rebuild my self-respect. At this point I'm not even so worried about H and what he thinks. It's more about me being able to respect myself and detach from H and this messed up sitch we're living.

H kept going back into the past last night when talking about R. He only had two complaints from the present and his biggest one was that I never answer my cell phone. My job provides a phone and it's bad about missing calls (not ringing then a message or missed call pops up). He wants me to answer every call immediately. He gets furious when I don't and then if I call him back, he won't answer. Childish! He even told me to get a phone that we'll pay for, just so he can be sure that I'll answer. Yet he doesn't have to always answer his phone. Controlling, no? So, the question is...do I continue to try to answer the phone every time he calls? Or is this part of the MLCer pushing back when LBS detaches (even though I haven't intentionally not answered my phone, it's just turned out that way b/c of technilogical issues).

Anyone have any thoughts on this and on the "I'm not leaving, you leave" stand?