I told the kids H was coming by tmrw and suggested if they could be nice or friendly, it might ease any tension. My S seemed agreeable, but my D clearly is still angry. She said she didn't owe him friendly or nice... (and she's one of the sweetest 16 yo girls you'd ever meet). I had to validate that she has every right to be upset and it's up to her how she handles things with him tmrw. May be a non-issue if he's in and out in 5 mins. But with so little interaction btw the two of us, or the kids and H, tmrw seems like a big deal.
I don't know what else to do about her anger, other than supporting her right to be upset.
I was thinking maybe my kids and I should have a regular time to just check in and see how everyone's doing... I've been trying to protect them, but not talking about what's going on isn't working well with these teenagers... I think I need some ideas!
