Thank you so much for your advice it helped a lot, the biggest problem I am having is that I have been unemployed now for two years and that is making my situation so much worse because I can't get any kind of support right now and I sure can't count on him for anything right now. Just a month ago everything seemed to be getting back to normal, I thought he was coming out of it and then right after Mother's Day it seemed to get worse again, he's accusing me of stuff and even said he wanted a divorce and that is the first time he has ever said that to me in the last four years this has been going on,when I said it might be time for that, then he all of a sudden wanted to work things out, all of this is really driving me crazy. I hurt so badly all the time I feel like I can't breath, I don't think he even knows the extent of my hurt or even cares, I just don't know what to do and your right I need to be in a good place to make good decisions, I really wish I could do the counseling but like I said I have no income at all, so that's pretty much out. I don't even know if this is MLC with him or if it's something else, he seems to have all the signs of it but can't really tell were he is at with it. How do you know for sure that this is MLC? The only thing I'm going on is when this first started in 2005 we went to a counselor, for not very long because he really didn't want to go but the counselor told me that my husband was going through MLC but we only had seen him a few times before my husband quit going, so I'm not really sure if this is what it is or not. Thanks for being so kind and I wish you the best of luck.
