I am glad you've got plans for tonight, good for you and GAL!!! Well, I was out and about all day and evening with the kids, so here I am tonight! Anyway... I think we all get regimented in our roles as H/W, Mommy and Daddy. It takes motivation for people to do something about it. I think for my H in particular, he didn't have the skills to break out of it in a healthy, normal "keep my family together at any cost" type of way and frankly, neither did I. I would say that I have not been happy for awhile in the R either...but that I always just thought we would get it together one day, and that day has come in the form of him leaving! I look to the future and hope that this will be a blessing in disguise and I can tell from reading MANY posts that that is how alot of these sitch's turn out.
In your sitch, I just think that you are doing the right things and she is responding so why change. FOR NOW. I think what you described of how she might be "seeing" you is partially the "cake eating" if you will. I mean, you are doing A FABULOUS JOB working on yourself...and I don't think you will let her walk all over you or take advantage. I think you will know when it is cake eating and you will come to the point where you will not allow it. Hopefully that made sense.
As for the bar sitch...the fact that there is a deeper meaning is only more reason for me to think that even if she didn't PLAN the meeting with you consciously, it was definately subconscious. Which to me sounds silly, so the only option is she knew what she was doing there!!! As far as DBing goes...if she starts to invite you alot of places...maybe turn one invite down. Ignite that flame of curiosity!!!!!!!!
