last message I left him was that I wanted him to imagine how he would have felt if his mom and dad were to never speak to each other. They are deceased now but I know, as anyone would, it would be very hurtful. I also told him to forget it, I would deal with it myself and that I didnt understand him and that I was disappointed in him.
uhhhmmm......sounds like you were guilt-ing him to me. you keep expecting him to be a responsible parent or friend or co-parent. dont have any such expectations. you keep setting your self up for hurt. havent you heard us all say NO expectations??
I know I said I wasnt going to post anymore but I had to reply to this. Yes I have heard all of you say this, but I guess I was HOPING and PRAYING that my xh would be different because he was such a good husband and dad before. You couldnt have asked for a better dad. From day one he changed diapers and did it all. You couldnt have asked for a better husband. He washed dishes, cleaned bathrooms, did his fair share. I guess I am still shocked at the way he has changed. I know people here say he is a WAS and this may be true, but I will tell you this. He has done a complete change. Given up everything he use to love to do what this gf wants. I would have never thought he would give up fishing, but he has. He is in love I guess. I am just still amazed at times I think. Yea maybe I was quilting him. I didnt even realize it.
