W is having Affair -- may leave soon -- thread 2

[SavingMyMarriage]

I decided to move over from the Newcomer's forum.

Quick background: My W had EA&PA from Jul-Oct w/OM from work. She said she would end A in Oct and things were great until end of Dec08. In Jan, she said she wasn't sure if we would end up together. I started DBing and end of Mar09 she approached me to talk about R and said she didn't know what to do (good conversation -- sounded 50/50 positive versus the 20/80 in Jan). Things went downhill afterwards and on 5/8 she said she didn't want R or M w/me anymore.

On 6/3 she said she was going out of town to Wash DC to baseball game w/OM (the A w/OM from her work is back now – they both now work in same dept). I was calm at first, but fell off DB wagon and pleaded w/her to stay -- I asked her to visit a female friend versus going w/OM. My point in doing so was that I didn't want her R w/OM to strengthen. Anyway, she went and she hasn't called me or texted me since she left Fri. Would like some suggestions please... What should I say or do when she returns on Sun afternoon?

Do I ask her how the game was or do I ask what they saw in Wash DC? I have a feeling that she might talk about moving out or maybe going away again w/OM. It’s completely unfair, but I will handle it better (the DB way) if she does it again. I just want to ensure I handle it appropriately when she returns on Sunday.

Thanks in advance for reading.
My Thread #1 is in Newcomer's: "Wife said she doesn't want to be in Marriage"