Help! Want direct feedback from walk away wive/s

[BigJohn]

I think you should consider just THREATENING to exposing her and taking a hard line...

(Already have. See my prior post.)

actually I think you have it all on your side, this man isnt even in your state. thats cool! hard to get physical when they arent available. also, that tells me your wife is mostly just wanting to be wanted and desired and appreciated, and probably its quite convenient for her that hes miles away.

(Yes, his being in another state limits the chances of a physical encounter- which I do not believe has happened. But she is in love with him, says she wants a divorce and my understanding is that he is apparently willing to wait for her.)

in your case you need to take a HARD LINE but dont go TOO hard TOO fast. this isnt physical! (or do you suspect it was?) tell her your done and she can pack her stuff and get out if she doesnt cease and desist... NOW. AND tell her you have evidence (tell her that even if you dont) and will expose her. ALSO tell her you'll confront this man.

(Have already told her to get out several times and go see him by herself but she keeps saying "I'm not going anywhere without the kids." No, she is not bluffing- she would go see him if I agreed to have her take the kids with her- she'd dump them off at my in laws while she went to have fun with the OM.)

and while your at it please confront this lowlife! ring this guy and tell him to P OFF! dont lie down quietly - kick up some FUSS with this man. He might not be so KEEN once he knows your sniffing all over this! also tell him she gets nothing and no money if she leaves so he can forget it - he sounds like a user; maybe hes out to feather his nest???

(He is a lowlife and has supposedly already told my wife he could care less what I say or do. The guy has no pride and no shame. Oh, but he's a great guy according to my wife.)

SOME MEN become OP's to get whats YOURS. tell this idiot he gets nothing that belongs to you, now or ever, due to the evidence you have. be FIERCE in that. if theres nothing in it for him he might let go. just listening to his MO by what you said, hes JUST the type to think your wife might be able to set him up WITH YOUR MONEY.

(The main thing he wants is my wife, don't think he really cares too much about anything else.)

you cut that dream short. also act like, if this ENDS NOW, i will forgive you but if it DOESNT, i will never ever speak to you again and you will never see me again in ALL YOUR DAYS. I will CUT YOU loose. say this with conviction! you have a long history its GOING to hurt like mad!

(She appears adamant that she wants a divorce- very hard hearted right now. Problem is, she doesn't know what the hell she is talking about. I'm a child of divorce myself, I know all too well the devastation divorce brings.)