I'm a believer. But I have to say, my prayers changed over time. Instead of asking God to help H "see the light" and restore the M, I just prayed for the guidance to know what to do, and the strength to deal with what was going to come, regardless of what way it went. Much like the serenity prayer.
I came to believe that God (or, if you will, "the universe" AK) has good things coming my way, so if that does NOT include H (remember that our spouses have FREE WILL and might not listen to the big guy) then I ahve faith that God has something else cool for me around the corner.
Well said. I continually remind myself of this as well. The good Lord can point our wayward spouses in the right direction, send countless "messengers" to show them the way, but in the end they have the free will to ignore all of it and go down their own lost separate path.
S4H--
Would you also agree, though, that God can and does send many powerful messages and guides to direct the lost back to the path that He has prepared for them? Maybe that is where a lot of the discrepancy comes in on the concept of free will. Yes, God gives us free will, but He still has a plan and a purpose for us and I believe that He will do all that He can to persuade us to fall in with His plans.
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SMW - stay the course you have chosen for you and your children. I for one believe you are on the right path. It will remain to be seen whether your H decides to join you or not, either way in the end you will be in a better place.
S4H
Thank you for the vote of confidence. I am seeing the cycling back and forth happening right in front of my eyes. I refuse to get on the roller coaster, though, as much as I hate to see DH struggling like this. Jumping on the ride will only serve to leave him without a lighthouse to guide him through the fog. I have to stay consistent--showing him unconditional love and respect, even when it seems like there is no hope. With lots of faith, there is always hope.
Living God's blessings with grace and dignity~ SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
