Amazing post and very very true. I have experienced both sides and you are so exactly right.
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There is no trick involved in getting this to work, you just have to mean it, it has to be genuine - if you're just saying words but there is no real meaning behind it, they can tell, they have great intuition with this stuff.
That is sooooooo right. As a WAS I sensed H shift from fighting for understanding and M to letting me go. No words needed. I sensed it and body language said it all.
As a LBS I tried to say the words which I thought were true , that I no longer cared about H. But I was kidding myself. It took time and GAL and a sense of self.
My silence did and continues to speak volumes and I feel good. I feel unburdened, liberated I suppose. This is DB. I am heading for a place in my life when i will make good choices , and that may be with H or it may be with someone else. Whoever it is, it will be right. It wont hurt.
