Another bump in the road... H told his IC that he was planning to move back in with me in a few months - IC reaction was not good at first, according to H IC backed off when he learned that H is coming back to a different situation (namely the kids won't be there) H says IC's objection is based on the AA suggestion that people in the program should not make decisions in the first year.
This started an argument... esp when I found out that he has not told his sponsor nor talked at meetings about our situation and problems. My thinking is that he should be talking about it with his sponsor and two supporters to find out what is best for him. H says he hasn't talked to anyone because he knows they will tell me not to move back in and to get a D. I doubt that. But it bothers me that he thinks this way.
Anyway, he ended up being offended, and walked out saying he will talk to his sponsor and get back to me. But as he was leaving he said he didn't think I want him back.
I didn't say that to him, I just don't like that on the one hand he insists that he wants to stay sober for the rest of his life and will do what his peers advise to help him, but he doesn't think it is any of their business to when it comes to make such a major decision about moving back with me.
I think it is important to get this feedback about getting himself into or out of situations that will either support or risk his sobriety.
I personally think they will be supportive of his return home and is setting himself up right now to sabotage himself and our M. H is supposed to talk to sponsor tonight and others at the meeting. I hope he will hear what he needs to hear - but I am not certain that he will. He seems so sensitive to rejection from me and seems to forget that I am still around when I could have D him.
I am venting because I am angry because this is the same old behavior as before. He is overly sensitive, expects rejection and doesn't like me disagreeing with him.
In the mean time, I don't like that we had plans and he has walked out on me twice this week because he didn't like what I was saying. I really do want him back as soon as possible, but I don't want to go through what we did before with his drinking. I can't seem to get through to him that I am not against him and I would like nothing better than to have a happy ending.
