A, Glad to read that you'll be okay with the fair division of assets. That's very important. Yep, it's like a game of sorts, but it's very, very real. You need to leave him alone and allow him to come to you when he is ready to contact you. No, the don't erase all of those years, they are stuffed down. People, men especially, are very good at compartmentalizing things. So the years you spent together are in a little box shoved in a corner of his brain and when he sleeps, that little box opens up and memories do drift around in that mess of a brain. He'll not admit it, but he does think of you often, and just like you, he thinks the most about the situation and you at night. Why? That's when things settle down and we have nothing else to focus on and our feelings/emotions take over and we think about things other than the normal day-to-day things.
Keep the focus on you. We cannot assume what he's doing r not doing. All we can do is look to what we are doing right now.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
