I guess I just thought I would clear the air and be on her side so she doesn't feel like she is caught in the middle. I thought it would help ease things for her.
You need to STOP "guessing" and seeing things on just a surface level. Your W is more than aware that you would like the situation with your MIL to improve. And right now, at this time, she has told you numerous times that any improvement or repair with you and your MIL is simply not going to happen right now and that the only way to make things "better" is with space. Its too late for her not to be caught in the middle, she already is. She made it very clear to you y'day she is caught in the middle and its making her not like you or her mom. So, how did pursuing her AGAIN (texting her), reminding her once again of an unpleasant situation (fued with mom) and assuming you could ease something that you cannot improve anything?
Because she responded in a polite fashion doesnt mean a thing. It means she opted not to be rude and once again tell you to back off, give her space, stop pursuing her, stop bring up the mom situation and stop telling her what she knows (you want things to be better).
Things have crumbled between you and your W to the very bottom. Things have crumbled with your W's family and you to the very bottom. Stop guessing or assuming you can "fix" any of that with more pursuit and clinging and telling her things she already knows. She told you y'day she needed space and less than 24 hours later you were texting her again! And what was she doing? She was out GAL (bike riding) and doing something for her.
Do NOT contact your W via phone, text, e-mail or IM unless you post here first (unless there is an emergency with your kids). The group will be able to tell you if its pursuit or smothering since you seem to keep making the same mistakes.
There is nothing surface about this - its very, very deep and you cant seem to grasp that. Each exchange you have with your W can either give her a positive feeling or a negative one and so far they all seem to go against what she is telling you she wants (space, no pursuit, no more talking about MIL).
Stop guessing and assuming. Use proven principles. If you dont understand them then ask but dont make up your own. You dont see the big picture and each "tiny" picture you see just causes more annoyance to your W because you are not listening to what she is telling you.
