Returning to the Fold 1

[Lissie]

Peggy this is from ALWAYS 14. (she can't find her log in info)




((( AH )))


I'm sorry I can't post directly to you as I've forgotten my password. I heard through the sisterhood grapevine that you were feeling blue - and asked Lissie to post this for me. I can't tell you how sad it makes me to know that your son is going through rough times. I can't imagine what it's like for you, as his loving mother, to watch that. I'm so sorry for it all.


I remember through the divorce, your son was doing his best with the situation and trying to take it all in for everyone. It takes a toll after a while, especially for someone so young and in their formative years. I am so thankful that he has a wonderful mother like you. I know how much you always put his needs, schooling, and time with his father first, making long trips across state and remaining in the same job to give him stability. Know that you did the best you could to keep things together for him in a tough situation that you could not control. You were strong for him, and make sure he still had a childhood and fun. Sometimes, as you well know by now, things just happen.


Ugh. Your X. Speaking of constipated....I've always thought his EMOTIONAL constipation was what made it so hard for you and your son, who were much more expressive and, oh, how do I say this, HUMAN. I recall the toughest thing for you was him refusing to talk about it, and thereby refusing to allow you to talk about such a huge upheaval in your life. I can imagine he's handled your son in the same way, just patting him on the back for taking it all so well, because this is just the way it is, right??!! Not a care to the fact that though HE deals in a superficial world, others do not, and his actions have made deep impacts in his son's life and yours.


I'm not going to give you a 2x4. What mother would NOT be angry seeing her son suffer the fallout from insensitive and unapologetic actions from a co-parent?


Blushing? Does he think you're in a coma and haven't realized he's MARRIED? Or had an AFFAIR? It's over, done, and you've moved on....he can get over himself now. Maybe that's the weird stuff emotionally constipated people do. Who knows. Who cares.


I am sending all my love.....hoping that you and your son are hanging tight and strong when your X leaves, and you both forge a new and beautiful life together.


oxoo